Workshops

A natural desire of each human being is attainment of happiness, love, fulfilment and creative self-actualization. However, we can not expect that our subconscience, along with our experiences, will change automatically, without our conscious effort. Each moment of our life is an opportunity to recognize limiting attitudes, beliefs and emotions and start changing them.

Our deepest, often very unconscious and limiting beliefs (“I’m not OK”; “There isn’t enough”; “I don’t deserve love, happiness etc.”) are as a rule unconscious and may be even contrary to our conscious beliefs. However, we can become aware of them if we learn how to listen to and pay attention to subtle processes which happen in our mind (and not least important, if we can train an unconditional sincerity towards ourselves). We can discover them by simple observation of our own life: by noticing which problems recur continuously, what kind of people and what life conditions do we attract (or are unable to attract) etc.

Our deepest beliefs are the ones we acquire at the earliest stage of life. They represent a foundation and a filter for all other experiences and they have an impact on our interpretation of all our later experiences. In this manner we create a stable view of the world, which in turn becomes so usual that we never question it.

This is the reason for a common occurrence – that exactly the most difficult barriers towards a better life are exactly the ones that are the most difficult to be aware of, because it is difficult to even imagine a different reality.

We obtain such beliefs in the first place from our parents and other important figures in our early life, from their statements and behaviour, but we also receive them on the non-verbal, emotional level. Our own experiences bear the same importance, where by rule the most painful ones are the ones we remember best. This is so because a child feels that they are unnatural and it does not expect them (in the beginning), but however it must fit them into its view of the world and does so by creating “negative” beliefs.

In that manner emotions and the whole parts of personality are being repressed into one’s subconscience (together with parts of our original identity and original qualities like joy, love, self-confidence…) but they do not get mature there like the rest of our personality but remain on the same developmental level as in the time when the trauma occurred. We all carry in ourselves a large quantity of such immature personality parts that can be especially easily activated in situations which remind us in any way of the original trauma. This causes irrational and exaggerated reactions of anger, fear, shame, jealousy etc. Such personality parts may impose unrealistic and meaningless expectations of ourselves or of other persons, who should provide us what we could not get from our parents. It seems that those personality parts relive the trauma that had repressed them into subconscience over and over again and they do not have a mature world view.

Psychologists believe that 80% of the personality gets formed by the age of eight, while profound and, as it seems, permanent foundations get formed by the age of three. But if you are prepared to reconsider the possibility of their alteration and wish to embark on such a journey, the above mentioned seminars are primarily intended to identify and resolve causes of the problem and not to only temporarily heal its consequences.

All the workshops on this page are taught by Kosjenka Muk.

SELF-ESTEEM AND SELF-CONFIDENCE (TWO-DAY WORKSHOP)

This workshop focuses on your relationship with yourself as the key aspect of a good life.

Our relationship to ourselves determines our daily mood, communication with the others, reactions on life experiences and the level to which we will allow ourselves (unconsciously) to realise our goals. As a rule, the key obstacle to realisation of any goal, spiritual and material alike, is a deeply repressed feeling that we do not deserve it.

Are you satisfied with the way you experience yourself and with your usual state of mind and feelings? Do you notice that you lack self-confidence or that you have a false, aggressive self-confidence? Are you happy with your communication with others, especially with your capability of receiving and giving love? Do you react with anger, fear or feeling of humiliation when other people act in a rough or ruthless manner? Do you dare to pursuit grand goals or do you give them up because you feel that such goals are out of your reach? Do you love yourself?

Low self-confidence is as a rule incorporated in the personality on a very basic level (so that it makes hard to imagine a different situation and the extent of such a difference). From there, it affects all aspects of our life, especially the extent to which we allow ourselves to receive: love, abundance etc.

The way people treat you reflects directly the quantity of love you give to yourself. You can receive only as much love from others as much you give it to yourself. A person who radiates true self-respect, authenticity and self-love attracts love from others – and helps the others to feel well about themselves, too.

Many people wear masks even before themselves.

Learn how to become truly close to yourself and your emotions; how to love yourself and explore your emotions in order to identify and heal limiting beliefs. Heal the guilt and attachment to suffering, which detract you from achieving joy of living and fulfilling relationships.

Learn to love your body and your sexual energy, enjoy every moment of your life to the full and awake your passion for life. Confront “difficult persons” calmly and without anger or fear.

The workshop contains key ideas, exercises and meditations acquired and created through many years of experience.

The duration of the seminar is two days.

Recommended articles:

What is Self-esteem?

Self-Esteem and Violence

VERBAL SELF-DEFENSE (ONE-DAY WORKSHOP)

Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.

(Ambrose Bierce)

Do you often catch yourself thinking: “If I only knew better how to take control of that conversation! If I only noticed that those words were an attack against me! Maybe I could have reacted better instead of getting angry and throwing insults? How should I find proper words when I wish to express something and I’m afraid of the reaction they might cause?...”

In the society we live in today we can expect immature and inconsiderate behaviour from others almost every single moment. It is an illusion to hope that other people will see us as we really are instead through their emotional and mental filters and projections. We all experience childish, unrealistic emotions which last for several moments or longer stirring up in us during almost every conversation and which may be caused even by irrational trifles.

Lies, open or hidden aggression, cynicism, playing the victim, struggle for power…are everyday situations. It is very rare that any of us have learnt to deal maturely and calmly with such circumstances. Usual reactions include fight or flight instead of expressing oneself which includes respect towards oneself and toward others.

This seminar is an opportunity for you to learn how to do the best you can in each individual situation for yourself, for another person and for your mutual relationship. A little of your time and effort can transform your relationships into a source of enthusiasm, happiness and fulfilment instead of confusion and suffering.

In this seminar you will learn the following:

• to identify unwanted behaviour

• to understand what is happening inside of other people and what is their motivation

• typology of difficult personalities and how to confront each of them

• how to bring out the best in other people

• to understand your own feelings and express them maturely

• to show to a person that it has crossed the boundaries

• to remain resourceful in difficult conversations

• verbal self-defence at work and other specific situations

• to recognize and understand non-verbal communication

• …and much, much more!

Recommended articles:

The Art of Communication, Power and Manipulation

Non-Verbal and Subtle Communication

Setting Boundaries

HAPPY PARTNERSHIP (ONE-DAY WORKSHOP)

People who wish to improve their lives find that partnership is one of the key life areas in which they are confronted with challenges. Many people are no longer contented with the usual patterns of relationship and communication and they don’t want to accept a relationship which does not make them feel fulfilled – but it is difficult for them to believe that they can create what they really want.

Partnership is the second most important relationship in our life, following the parents-child relationship and it brings out everything we have learnt from our parents on relationships, love and communication. Such an intimate relationship with another human being is a mirror which reflects more intensively all our emotional patterns and problems, but also all positive aspects of our relationship towards ourselves.

Our “internal child” is often attracted to circumstances or a type of person for which it has learnt to believe that it means love. Perhaps, as you were a child, you have learnt to equal love with fight, dependence, fear and even loneliness. Maybe you have concluded that love is out of reach, that you don’t deserve it or that you deserve it only if you sacrifice your true self and your needs…

Some people, tired by repeating the same patterns over and over again, or even so early in life as childhood, make a conclusion that it is better to be alone than to get hurt – or they hope that the outer circumstances will change without making them confront the internal patterns. But in this manner they renounce the possibility of wonderful experiences like love, trust and intimacy with another person, and for a fast growth and development made possible by an intimate relationship.

You can create the partnership you wish for! If you are in a promising relationship, its quality can improve in numerous ways and you can save yourself years of learning by trial and error …and maybe even years of slowly closing into oneself and suffering. If you want a new relationship, you can learn how to open up for it, attract the best possible partner for you and prepare in the best possible way for a relationship which will truly make your life fulfilled. This seminar consists of:

• intensive work on identifying and breaking through barriers towards a successful partnership (or even realisation of partnership);

• identification of your patterns and age regression and transfer moments (releasing of childish feelings) and how to deal with them

• learning how to communicate well (especially by taking into account the communicational differences and emotional needs of women and men)

• conflict solving and communication in difficult situations

• creating intimacy and trust
  

This seminar is intended for singles and for people who have a partner and wish to improve their relationship alike. It is not necessary to attend it with a partner (although it is recommendable).

Recommended articles:

In Love and the Ending Relationships

Patterns in Love

Keeping Passion Alive

BODY WISDOM (ONE-DAY WORKSHOP)

Most people do not have a good relationship with their bodies. We learn how to ignore the needs of our body from the childhood on and to believe to the external information instead of listening to our body’s messages. Eventually, the body gets deformed under influence of emotional stress or relationship problems. Many people are not truly present in their bodies, what takes away lots of their energy and vitality.

This workshop is intended for people who wish to look better – but for all of those who want a healthy body full of energy and who wish to build a better relationship with it.

Aesthetic problems, especially excess weight are caused, as a rule, by a combination of following causes:

• Not taking care of bodily needs

• Emotional causes: feelings that one tries to evoke or repress with food, but also with a too stiff relationship with the body; feeling that you do not deserve beauty, resistance towards movement and awareness of the physical body…

• Unconscious benefits regarding avoidance of sexuality, avoidance of other people’s attention, attempts to defy vulnerability…
  
  

Instead of purchasing artificial products which harm natural functions of your body, learn how to communicate with your body and listen to its messages in order to find out what kind of nourishment your body wants and what kind of exercise it enjoys. You will learn how to work with energy on your body cells, identify and reprogramme causes of physical problems, overcome your addictions and cultivate the way of thinking which will support your beauty.